A Woman Who is Truly Healing Will Never Put Another Woman Down

Let’s be real for a second: a woman who is actively working through her traumas, behaviour patterns and the conditioning from her childhood will NEVER tear down another woman. That’s just not in her DNA.

The wild, EMBODIED WOMAN KNOWS HER WORTH DEEP DOWN IN HER BONES. She understands that healing isn’t some pretty, linear journey—it’s messy, painful and most of the times SO uncomfortable. But because she’s been through it, because she knows the courage it takes to face those dark shadows head-on, she would NEVER, ever, pull another woman down who's trying to walk that same road. That’s not sisterhood and that’s not empowerment.

My point really is that the real problem lies in the structures around us. Academia, society and workplaces—especially those overrun by PATRIARCHAL SYSTEMS—ARE BREEDING GROUNDS FOR RUTHLESS COMPETITION. It's never about support, it’s always about outdoing, proving and showing off. And let’s be honest, when has that really worked out for anyone’s soul? Women are often left in the trenches of their own healing journey with zero support because it doesn’t fit the over-masculine ideals of competition and dominance. But this should not be the way.

When we, as WOMEN, SHOW CARE, LOVE AND COMPASSION—when we teach what truly matters, when we spread kindness, when we’re supportive of others—it’s labelled as “delusional.” We get pushed to the margins as if our emotional intelligence and nurturing nature are some kind of weakness. Let me be clear: THAT IS FULL ON WRONG.

Those women lost in the hamster wheel of over-masculine values? They’re trapped. THEY THINK PUTTING OTHER WOMEN DOWN IS A SURVIVAL TACTIC. They believe this is the only way to get ahead, the only way to “win,” to climb the ladder. But news flash: the ladder is broken and we don’t need to climb it to prove anything.

So, next time you catch hate or judgment from another woman, pause and ask her a few questions. Ask her how she’s really doing. Ask her when was the last time she felt supported—TRULY SUPPORTED. When was the last time someone cared for her during a hard time, or celebrated her without expecting anything in return? When was the last time someone wrapped her up in a real, no-strings-attached hug? When was the last time someone loved her for just being her?

She just needs love. Simple, pure and genuine love. If you’re getting negativity or a cold shoulder from another woman, rather than biting back or playing into her defensiveness, OFFER HER A SPACE TO LET HER GUARD DOWN. Offer her kindness. I promise you, she will soften. She’ll drop the armour she’s built up for survival, because deep down, SHE’S FORGOTTEN HOW TO BE VULNERABLE IN A WORLD THAT DEMANDS SO MUCH FROM HER.

So, let’s make it a habit to check in with the women around us. Do they have the support, love and appreciation they deserve? Are they being celebrated, or are they just stuck in the grind? Chances are, they need something simple and life-changing: a hug, a genuine compliment, or a “you’re enough, just as you are, my love” as Mark Darcy would say…

P.S. Keep the words flowing and the coffee brewing - fuel the huntress! ☕