Fawning vs. the Authentic Wild Woman: Reclaiming Your Power
- thewildmedeina
- Mar 3
- 4 min read
Updated: Mar 5
Some women fight. Some flee. Some freeze. And then there’s fawning—the survival response that keeps too many women trapped in a cycle of people-pleasing, over-giving & self-betrayal.
Fawning is what happens when a woman has been taught—by society, by family, by past wounds—that her worth is tied to how much she can keep the peace, serve others & make herself “acceptable.” It’s a defence mechanism, a way to avoid rejection, conflict, or abandonment. But in doing so, she silences her own needs, her own desires and her own truth.
The Wild Woman within her? She’s still there. Waiting. Watching. Growing restless.
Because a woman was never meant to live on her knees, begging for approval. She was meant to stand tall, trust her instincts & walk her own untamed path.
It’s time to break free from fawning. It’s time to reclaim your authentic wild woman!
What Is Fawning? The Pleaser’s Survival Mode
Fawning is a learned behaviour. It’s a response to fear—fear of rejection, fear of conflict, fear of being “too much” or “not enough.” It often starts in childhood when a girl learns that being agreeable, sweet & self-sacrificing gets her love and approval. Over time, this pattern burrows deep into her subconscious.
She says yes when she wants to say no. She bends over backward to keep others happy. She minimizes her own needs and desires. She seeks validation outside herself, never feeling like she’s enough.
But here’s the thing: fawning is not love. It’s self-abandonment disguised as connection. And the more you betray yourself for the comfort of others, the further you drift from your own wild truth.
💔 Signs You Might Be Fawning:
You say yes to things you don’t want to do, just to avoid disappointing others
You suppress your real opinions or emotions to “keep the peace”
You take responsibility for other people’s feelings and problems
You feel anxious when someone is upset with you—even if you did nothing wrong
You put everyone else first and feel guilty when you prioritize yourself
Fawning might feel like love, like loyalty, like being a "good" person. But true love never requires you to betray yourself.
The Authentic Wild Woman: The Free, Untamed Soul
The opposite of fawning isn’t aggression. It isn’t cold detachment. It’s sovereignty.
The authentic Wild Woman doesn’t people-please—she lives in alignment. She doesn’t seek approval—she trusts her own instincts. She doesn’t dim her light—she radiates unapologetically.
She knows that love should never come at the cost of her own truth.
🌿 Signs You Are Reclaiming Your Wild Woman Energy:
You say no without guilt
You set boundaries that honour your energy
You express your emotions without fear of being "too much"
You listen to your intuition and trust your inner wisdom
You stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable
How to Move from Fawning to Embracing Your Authenticity as Wild Woman
1️. Self-Awareness: Name the Pattern
The first step is recognizing when and where you fawn. Ask yourself:
Where do I silence my truth to keep others happy?
When do I ignore my own needs for approval?
Do I feel anxious setting boundaries or saying no?
Awareness is power. Once you see the pattern, you can break it.
2️. Learn to Set Boundaries—Without Apologizing
Boundaries are not walls; they are self-respect in action. Start small:
Pause before saying yes—ask yourself, “Do I actually want this?”
Stop explaining or justifying your no. A simple “No, that doesn’t work for me” is enough.
Protect your time, energy & emotional space like your wild self depends on it—because she does.
3️. Embody Your Full Self
Stop performing. Stop filtering. Stop diluting yourself. The wild woman doesn’t edit who she is to fit someone else’s comfort. She allows herself to be seen—fully, fiercely, freely. Try this:
Express your opinions, even when they’re unpopular.
Take up space—physically, emotionally, energetically.
Celebrate your strengths instead of downplaying them.
4️. Trust Your Intuition—It’s Your Wild Compass
Fawning makes you seek external validation. Reclaiming your wild self means looking within.
When something feels wrong, honour that instinct.
When your gut tells you to leave, listen.
When you feel a deep pull toward something, trust it.
The Wild Woman knows. She has always known. The more you listen, the stronger her voice becomes.
You Were Never Meant to Shrink. You Were Meant to Roar.
Fawning is a cage built by fear. Reclaiming your Wild Woman is breaking free. You are not here to make everyone comfortable at the cost of your truth. You are not here to sacrifice yourself for the illusion of love. You are not here to be tamed.
You are here to be wild, free & unapologetically yourself.
The more you embrace your authentic Wild Woman, the more powerful, peaceful & fulfilled you’ll feel.
So, what’s it going to be? Will you keep fawning? Or will you reclaim your untamed, unstoppable, sovereign self?
The choice is yours 🔥🐺
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